Friday, April 1, 2011

April Fools Announcemet?

This morning I thought it would clever to make the big Facebook announcement about this triplet pregnancy. People would think it was an April Fool's joke since people are posting all sorts of outlandish status updates today. I just thought it would be a fun way to share the news. But I just couldn't pull the trigger for several reasons:

1. I know what it feels like to be dealing with IF and seeing pregnancy announcements via Facebook. It hurts, and I don't want to possibly cause others the pain that I have experienced.

2. Does it even need to be announced? I think maybe putting something in my profile at some point might be sufficient, and people who know would probably make comments on my wall, tag pictures of me pregnant, etc. Is a big status update announcement necessary?

3. At 12w3d I feel pretty secure in this pregnancy, but triplet pregnancies are high risk all the way, is it worth risking in sharing the news? If not now, then when would I feel comfortable?

4. The only "pro" in making the announcement is to share in our excitement with others. It is an exciting time in our lives and sometimes when I find myself letting fears in, seeing others' excitement helps me stay positive. 

Pretty much everyone who knows about our IF struggles also knows about this pregnancy. So all that is left are friends from college and highschool, etc. Maybe it is none of their business anyway. I don't know. I feel so conflicted. 

Disclaimer: I know this is not something to complain about or make a big deal about. I just wanted to share and sort through some thoughts about making the "big announcement". 

Also, people at work do not know yet (although, who am I kidding my belly is growing and growing). I am waiting until after Tuesday's appointment to share the news with bosses/colleagues. And I am not FB friends with anyone from work so they would not find out there. 

I guess I answered my own question by writing this post in saying that I am just not ready. Maybe I will just know if/when the time is right. 


  1. I think one thing to remember is this - you did not like seeing the annoucments before, right? But after seeing you, you got to move on and choose to go back and look up that person again or ignore them for a while. It will be just the same for you.
    You have earned just as much of a right to make your own annoucement as the next girl. Do it when you feel right but don't beat yourself up over it lose the fun in it for you.

  2. ITA with Lindsay! Just because you suffered with IF and you knew how it felt doesn't mean you should be denied little pleasures.


  3. Posting on Facebook or not, wait until you are ready.

    Question for you though. Does your uterus hurt all the time? My nurses said I am extra sore because the uterus is just growing faster with the twins. Did you (are you) experience that with your triplets?

  4. We didn't find out we were having triplets until 18 weeks and it was a huge shock and of course brought up a lot of worries right away about their health, my health, how we would possibly take care of three babies... Posting the news on facebook actually helped me in a way that I didn't expect, but it was really encouraging to me seeing everyone's excitement. It made me feel that everything would be ok. Whenever and however you feel ready to share the news just enjoy seeing people's reactions, because that is one of the most fun parts of being pregnant with triplets!

  5. i feel the same way. I say I am going to post on facebook after each successful doctor's appointment, but then I always change my mind and say "one more appointment."